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Loneliness: An invitation to Commune with Our Spirit

May 12, 2020, in Articles > Baha'i Life, by

I have always found it interesting how there are some emotions that we think we can avoid feeling—even though history and experience consistently demonstrate otherwise. We are happy to fully embrace the joyful moments—the successful interviews, promotions and scientific breakthroughs; finding true love, marriages, births and anniversaries. And yet we all know that for every joyful, celebratory experience there are undoubtedly many hours of sacrifice, failure, loss and grief, and that we wouldn’t appreciate the moments of happiness and contentment nearly as acutely without the periods of struggle and pain that preceded them.

One emotion that it seems most of us consciously or unconsciously try to avoid feeling at some point in our lives is loneliness. Unlike solitude—a welcome and often intentionally chosen period of time alone in one’s own company, loneliness is usually neither chosen nor welcome; a melancholic longing for companionship, and the real or imagined sense that something (or someone) is missing from our life. Objectively, most of us know that the emotion is more indicative of a passing circumstance rather than a permanent reflection of our own unworthiness for companionship. Nevertheless, falling victim to the tricky ways in which loneliness can distort our perception of ourselves and the world around us can feel very personal when we are in the middle of experiencing it. Beneath our public bravado, I think we all have moments of vulnerability.

Today so much of our time is spent online, where we are constantly confronted with photoshopped, airbrushed and carefully staged versions of reality; images that seem to be telling us that people who are well-loved; those on whom providence has smiled; the lucky ones; those who are truly blessed, do not experience loneliness. Not really. I don’t know about you, but especially when I am feeling isolated and alone, I find it hard to not compare myself and my life to the glossy lives portrayed in these images. And the more I compare and judge myself, the lonelier I get. And yet when I go in search of answers, what I discover is that even the Manifestations and Prophets of God write about feeling lonely. In Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah, He says “Unto Him do I render thanks and praise for the things He hath ordained, for My loneliness, and the anguish I suffer at the hands of these men who have strayed so far from Him.”1; and in the Fire Tablet, He writes “This Youth is lonely in a desolate land: Where is the rain of Thy heavenly grace, O Bestower of the worlds?” Clearly, if the best-beloved of God describes feeling loneliness, then nobody is immune to it, and if we all feel loneliness, then perhaps the act of embracing and moving through it with grace serves some greater purpose. The fact that it is mentioned so many times in prayers and meditations penned by the Manifestations of God, prophets and poets alike seems to imply so. Abdu’l-Baha, in one of His prayers, writes “O my Lord, my Beloved, my Desire! Befriend me in my loneliness and accompany me in my exile” and in another, He writes:

O Lord, my God and my Haven in my distress! My Shield and my Shelter in my woes! My Asylum and Refuge in time of need and in my loneliness my Companion! In my anguish my Solace, and in my solitude a loving Friend! The Remover of the pangs of my sorrows and the Pardoner of my sins…

In addition to mentioning the experience of loneliness, however, the writings of the Manifestations of God seem to be saying that while it is natural to feel lonely, we should not allow this emotion to become a permanent place of residence. That moving through times of loneliness with faith that there is a greater purpose to these periods of sadness and suffering, and a firm reliance on God, can help us emerge stronger and with a greater capacity to serve those around us. In a tablet addressed to an isolated individual, Abdu’l-Baha wrote:

There is no harm in thy loneliness in those regions; for verily, the hosts of confirmation are thy help, thy Glorious Lord is thy protector and the angels of the Kingdom are thy fellow-speakers. Glad-tidings be unto thee for this!  Blessed art thou for this!2

And in the Fire Tablet Baha’u’llah writes, “By Thine aloneness the Sun of Oneness shone, and by Thy banishment the land of Unity was adorned. Be patient, O Thou Exile of the worlds.” These passages appear to indicate not only that loneliness is a natural part of the human experience, but that moving through it patiently and with intention can positively contribute to our spiritual growth and progress.

The question that emerged for me from reading the passages above was: If approached consciously and with intention, how exactly does loneliness facilitate spiritual growth? I had a few ideas, but nothing I felt confident about, so I continued reading in search of an answer that rang true. What I discovered were passages referring to the idea that often it is in those times that force us to acknowledge and accept our own aloneness that we learn what reliance upon and surrender to the Will of God truly means. In a prayer revealed to the Baha’is of the Western States, Abdu’l-Baha says, “O Lord! I am single, alone and lowly. For me there is no support save Thee, no helper except Thee and no sustainer beside Thee,” and in a passage from the Kitab-i-Iqan in which Baha’u’llah is describing the sense of aloneness that He experienced when He was forced to live in isolation for a period of two years, He says:

From Our eyes there rained tears of anguish, and in Our bleeding heart there surged an ocean of agonizing pain. Many a night We had no food for sustenance, and many a day Our body found no rest. By Him Who hath My being between His hands! notwithstanding these showers of afflictions and unceasing calamities, Our soul was wrapped in blissful joy, and Our whole being evinced an ineffable gladness. For in Our solitude We were unaware of the harm or benefit, the health or ailment, of any soul. Alone, We communed with Our spirit, oblivious of the world and all that is therein.3

What strikes me from this passage are the words “[a]lone, We communed with Our spirit.” It is my understanding of this passage that separation gave Him the time to commune with His spirit, and in so doing He was somehow able to transform what could have been perceived as loneliness into solitude, and from within solitude discover a sense of abiding joy.

I am sure that my thoughts on loneliness will continue to evolve as I read and reflect further, but at this moment what I have concluded, based on my own experience with loneliness and the literature that I have studied, is that if we want to live our lives wholeheartedly, we must move through loneliness, not around it. As Rilke says,

Be ahead of all parting, as though it already were

behind you, like the winter that has just gone by.

For among these winters there is one so endlessly winter

that only by wintering through it will your heart survive.4

It is possible that we could survive the periods of loneliness by avoiding them, but what I wonder is: are we really here just to survive the experience of living, or have we been given the capacity to thrive? I don’t have any concrete answers here. My journey with, and understanding of loneliness is an ongoing one. But the next time I feel lonely, instead of lamenting my lack of companionship or praying for a change in my circumstances, I am going to try to treat it as an opportunity to get curious; to more deeply explore what it means to commune with my spirit, and to entertain the possibility that instead of a punishment I am being forced to endure, perhaps the time alone is an invitation to continue evolving into an ever-better version of myself. Will you join me?

  1. Baha’u’llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah, p. 274 []
  2. Abdu’l-Baha, Tablets of Abdu’l-Baha, Volume 1, p. 61 []
  3. Baha’u’llha, The Kitab-i-Iqan, pp. 250–252 []
  4. Rainer Maria Rilke, Sonnets to Orpheus, Book 11, 13 []
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Ariana Salvo

Ariana Salvo was born in the United States, and spent sixteen years of her childhood on the Mediterranean island of Cyprus. She moved to Prince Edward Island to do her master’s degree in Island Studies, fell in love with the tightly knit community, and has never left. When not writing, she can be found exploring art at galleries around the world, flower farming, traveling to remote islands, hiking and taking photos of the wild natural landscapes of Canada’s eastern shore, teaching English to international students and reading historical fiction with a good cup of tea.
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Discussion 10 Comments

if you want to find God, I think that rest is necessary. but it’s also wonderful to share the secrets with your friends. Both are beautiful

Margrit Rita Hurni

Margrit Rita Hurni (May 5, 2020 at 7:23 AM)

Indeed. I completely agree with you. Thanks so much for sharing your reflections!

Ariana Salvo

Ariana Salvo (May 5, 2020 at 8:41 PM)
Dans la solitude, la musique élève l’âme, et apporte bonheur, joie, vie, réconfort…(paraphrase “Abdu’l Baha”)
Bouzy From France…


DRARIS (May 5, 2020 at 12:24 PM)

Agreed. Music is a ladder for the soul, for sure! My father was a composer and musician, and I often listen to his music when I need support/inspiration. Thank you for your comment!

Ariana Salvo

Ariana Salvo (May 5, 2020 at 8:43 PM)

Beautiful. Thank you

Anet Sears

Anet Sears (May 5, 2020 at 1:43 PM)

Thank you for reading. I am so happy you found some of my reflections useful!

Ariana Salvo

Ariana Salvo (May 5, 2020 at 8:44 PM)

You have shone much light in words on how loneliness can capture the minds of this world and to hold our spirit in a sort of Spiritual limbo! – a good read!
Before becoming a Baha’i I had Buddhist roots which served me well before the Faith grabbed my attention and the world of suffering was always high on the agenda with loneliness, together with many other human frailties detracting us from Buddha like nature! I describe them as part of The family brotherhood of despair! ( all things which take away joy )
I try to see life in a simplistic way and it’s a continual fight with our lower nature! From what I understand our free will is the most important gift we have been given and everything is a choice – including loneliness! Once we become responsible for our own thoughts however, we can change whatever we think and not let our lower nature burden our sight! Abdul Baha said ‘ natural emotions are as dust upon the mirror! ‘
It’s easy to make any of our pains of life into a philosophy, But hopefully we’re here to allow our higher nature to lead!
(do not dwell on the unpleasant things of life)
All the prophets had these earthly emotions too, no doubt But their spiritual strength was absolute without any shadow of self, with inherent knowledge of all our sufferings with their unique dual nationality of heaven and hell!
I do find meditation helps to guide our choices and with a little practice loneliness can fade to spiritual joy!
It certainly helped me dissolve all barriers to the Baha’i Faith so in the end I could choose the most beautiful reality – and let go of the little me and allow the greater Me a voice!
Happy Wayfaring!

Derek Greenbury

Derek Greenbury (May 5, 2020 at 5:39 PM)

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my piece so thoughtfully Derek. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts and reflections on loneliness and how we can move through it and find gems of joy hidden in its’ lining. Sending greetings to you from Canada!

Ariana Salvo

Ariana Salvo (May 5, 2020 at 11:36 PM)

Thank you for such a beautiful, thoughtful article. It gave me a lot to reflect on.


Fanya (June 6, 2020 at 12:39 AM)

Thank you for reading Fanya love!

Ariana Salvo

Ariana Salvo (February 2, 2021 at 8:27 PM)

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